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Correction Appended: May 9, I am about to do what old people have done throughout history: call those younger than me lazy, entitled, selfish and shallow. But I have studies! I have statistics! I have quotes from respected academics! Unlike my parents, my grandparents and my great-grandparents, I have proof. They are fame-obsessed: three times as many middle school girls want to grow up to be a personal assistant to a famous person as want to be a Senator, according to a survey; four times as many would pick the assistant job over CEO of a major corporation.
Their development is stunted: more people ages 18 to 29 live with their parents than with a spouse, according to the Clark University Poll of Emerging Adults. And they are lazy. Poll: Who's the Most Influential Millennial? Millennials consist, depending on whom you ask, of people born from to To put it more simply for them, since they grew up not having to do a lot of math in their heads, thanks to computers, the group is made up mostly of teens and somethings. At 80 million strong, they are the biggest age grouping in American history.
Each country's millennials are different, but because of globalization, social media, the exporting of Western culture and the speed of change, millennials worldwide are more similar to one another than to older generations within their nations.
Even in China, where family history is more important than any individual, the Internet, urbanization and the one-child policy have created a generation as overconfident and self-involved as the Western one. And these aren't just rich-kid problems: poor millennials have even higher rates of narcissism, materialism and technology addiction in their ghetto-fabulous lives.
They are the most threatening and exciting generation since the baby boomers brought about social revolution, not because they're trying to take over the Establishment but because they're growing up without one. The Industrial Revolution made individuals far more powerful--they could move to a city, start a business, read and form organizations.
The information revolution has further empowered individuals by handing them the technology to compete against huge organizations: hackers vs. Millennials don't need us. That's why we're scared of them. In the U. Whereas in the s families displayed a wedding photo, a school photo and maybe a military photo in their homes, the average middle-class American family today walks amid 85 pictures of themselves and their pets.
Millennials have come of age in the era of the quantified self, recording their daily steps on FitBit, their whereabouts every hour of every day on PlaceMe and their genetic data on 23 and Me. They have less civic engagement and lower political participation than any previous group. This is a generation that would have made Walt Whitman wonder if maybe they should try singing a song of someone else.
They got this way partly because, in the s, people wanted to improve kids' chances of success by instilling self-esteem. It turns out that self-esteem is great for getting a job or hooking up at a bar but not so great for keeping a job or a relationship. It's just that we've learned later that self-esteem is a result, not a cause.
When they're 14 it's no longer cute. What millennials are most famous for besides narcissism is its effect: entitlement. If you want to sell seminars to middle managers, make them about how to deal with young employees who e-mail the CEO directly and beg off projects they find boring. English teacher David McCullough Jr. He says nearly all the response to the video has been positive, especially from millennials themselves; the video has 57 likes for every dislike.
Though they're cocky about their place in the world, millennials are also stunted, having prolonged a life stage between teenager and adult that this magazine once called twixters and will now use once again in an attempt to get that term to catch on.
The idea of the teenager started in the s; in , only a tiny percentage of kids went to high school, so most people's social interactions were with adults in their family or in the workplace. Now that cell phones allow kids to socialize at every hour--they send and receive an average of 88 texts a day, according to Pew--they're living under the constant influence of their friends.
It is anti-historical. To develop intellectually you've got to relate to older people, older things: year-olds never grow up if they're just hanging around other year-olds. Millennials are interacting all day but almost entirely through a screen.
You've seen them at bars, sitting next to one another and texting. They might look calm, but they're deeply anxious about missing out on something better. Seventy percent of them check their phones every hour, and many experience phantom pocket-vibration syndrome. That constant search for a hit of dopamine "Someone liked my status update! From , when the Torrance Tests of Creative Thinking were first administered, through the mids, creativity scores in children increased.
Then they dropped, falling sharply in Scores on tests of empathy similarly fell sharply, starting in , likely because of both a lack of face-to-face time and higher degrees of narcissism. Not only do millennials lack the kind of empathy that allows them to feel concerned for others, but they also have trouble even intellectually understanding others' points of view. What they do understand is how to turn themselves into brands, with "friend" and "follower" tallies that serve as sales figures.
As with most sales, positivity and confidence work best. Keith Campbell, a psychology professor at the University of Georgia, who has written three books about generational increases in narcissism including When You Love a Man Who Loves Himself. When everyone is telling you about their vacations, parties and promotions, you start to embellish your own life to keep up.
If you do this well enough on Instagram, YouTube and Twitter, you can become a microcelebrity. Millennials grew up watching reality-TV shows, most of which are basically documentaries about narcissists. Now they have trained themselves to be reality-TV-ready. So for people to be defining who they are at the age of 14 is almost a huge evolutionary jump," says casting director Doron Ofir, who auditioned participants for Jersey Shore, Millionaire Matchmaker, A Shot at Love and RuPaul's Drag Race, among other shows.
I'm fun. I hope that one day they provide an Emmy for casting of reality shows--because, you know, I'd assume I'm a shoo-in. I would like that gold statue.
And then I will take a photo of it, and then I will Instagram it. I have gone just about as far as I can in an article without talking about myself. So first, yes, I'm aware that I started this piece--in which I complain about millennials' narcissism--with the word I.
I know that this magazine, which for decades did not print bylines, started putting authors' names on the cover regularly in and that one of the first names was mine.
As I mocked reality shows in the previous paragraph, I kept thinking about the fact that I got to the final round for 's Real World: London. I know my number of Twitter followers far better than the tally on my car's odometer; although Facebook has a strictly enforced limit of 5, friends, I somehow have 5, It was impossible not to remember, the whole time I was accusing millennials of being lazy, that I was supposed to finish this article nearly a year ago.
Will They Ever? I moved home for the first six months after college. When I got hired at Time, my co-workers hated me for cozying up to the editor of the magazine. I talk to one of my parents every other day and depend on my dad for financial advice.
It's highly possible that I'm a particularly lame year-old, but still, none of these traits are new to millennials; they've been around at least since the Reformation, when Martin Luther told Christians they didn't need the church to talk to God, and became more pronounced at the end of the 18th century in the Romantic period, when artists stopped using their work to celebrate God and started using it to express themselves.
In , Christopher Lasch wrote in The Culture of Narcissism, "The media give substance to, and thus intensify, narcissistic dreams of fame and glory, encourage common people to identify themselves with the stars and to hate the 'herd,' and make it more and more difficult for them to accept the banality of everyday existence. So while the entire first half of this article is absolutely true I had data! They're not a new species; they've just mutated to adapt to their environment.
For example, millennials' perceived entitlement isn't a result of overprotection but an adaptation to a world of abundance. And then people were farmers and factory workers.
Nobody gets very much fulfillment from either of those things," says Jeffrey Arnett, a psychology professor at Clark University, who invented the phrase emerging adulthood, which people foolishly use instead of the catchy twixters. Twixters put off life choices because they can choose from a huge array of career options, some of which, like jobs in social media, didn't exist 10 years ago. What idiot would try to work her way up at a company when she's going to have an average of seven jobs before age 26?
Because of online dating, Facebook circles and the ability to connect with people internationally, they no longer have to marry someone from their high school class or even their home country.
Because life expectancy is increasing so rapidly and technology allows women to get pregnant in their 40s, they're more free to postpone big decisions. The median age for an American woman's first marriage went from And while all that choice might end in disappointment, it's a lottery worth playing.
One became a pilot; one became a doctor. When you grow up during the Great Depression and fight off the Nazis, you want safety and stability," says Tucker Max, 37, who set an example for millennials when instead of using his Duke law degree to practice law, he took his blog rants about his drunken, lecherous adventures and turned them into a mega-best-selling book, I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, that he got an independent publisher to print.
And millennials didn't want to do that. In fact, a lot of what counts as typical millennial behavior is how rich kids have always behaved. The Internet has democratized opportunity for many young people, giving them access and information that once belonged mostly to the wealthy.
When I was growing up in the s, I thought I would be a lawyer, since that was the best option I knew about for people who sucked at math in my middle-class suburb, but I saw a lot more options once I got to Stanford. But now it's, Wait, I know someone who knows someone," says Jane Buckingham, who studies workplace changes as founder of Trendera, a consumer-insights firm. Because millennials don't respect authority, they also don't resent it.
That's why they're the first teens who aren't rebelling. They're not even sullen. They were that 'Wah-wah' voice. The most simple decision of should I do this or should I do that--our audience will check in with their parents.
Most of my friends, their parents are on social and they're following them or sharing stuff with them," says Jessica Brillhart, a filmmaker at Google's Creative Lab, who worked on the commercial.
It's hard to hate your parents when they also listen to rap and watch Jon Stewart. In fact, many parents of millennials would proudly call their child-rearing style peer-enting. Maybe all that coddling has paid off in these parent-child relationships," says Jon Murray, who created The Real World and other reality shows, including Keeping Up With the Kardashians.
Generation Me [Speed Summary]
She compares studies of This is a must read for anyone, young or older, to help them understand the dynamics of what is happing in the minds and hearts of the younger generations. For the younger folk reading this, perhaps Jean M. She lives in San Diego with her husband and three daughters. In this provocative new book, headline-making psychologist and social commentator Dr.
Millennials: The Me Me Me Generation